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A Complaint Free World

One of my students who is now a freshman in college had to read  this book as part of her freshman orientation course.  It's a great premise that a minister challenged his congregation with and it has evidently spread all over the world.  The idea is that a person puts on this purple bracelet, like a Lance Armstrong type bracelet, which reminds him/her to not complain and if they do, they have to switch the bracelet to the other arm, back and forth, until they are cognizant of how many times they are negative.  It just makes people cognizant of how much negativity they are spreading with their complaining.  It's probably just a fad, like Random Acts of Kindness, but it is an interesting proposition.  Here's the link:

Perhaps if you had to change a fiver from one pocket to the other, and were more likely to lose it the more swaps you did, that would stop people sooner?  Wink

Ah, but then you could complain about losing the fiver...  I'll have to think about that again.

Ha!  That was a great idea, Freyda.  It would be upsetting to lose it, wouldn't it?

I don't think negativity is necessarily a bad thing. There's an awful lot out there one should be negative about. If we are to admire and to appreciate the good for what it is, we must also be able to recognise the mediocre and the bad for what they are. In brief, without negativity, there can be no positivity either.

There is necessary complaining for a useful purpose and unnecessary complaining because some people (of all ages) are so "me me me" and can't see anything or anyone outside themselves and their own perception of the situation. I could foresee many people and occasions when there would be nothing but purple bands in transit, looking more like butterflies than bands.

I have long thought that the complaining culture in the US (and in big cities like London) is the main reason that service is generally better in the restaurants and shops in those places. The traditional English culture of "not liking to cause a fuss" gives restaurants and shops little incentive to improve their service levels.

The directors at my job have been doing a book study on Peter Senge's The Fifth Discipline (nothing like self-help for corporations, eh?).  He discusses positivity v. negativity, saying that most companies function from what they don't want - we don't want to lose our customers, we don't want the value of our stock to fall, we don't want to look bad in the press - rather than what they do want.  He says the "what do we want" (positive) is different from "what do we want to avoid" (negative)?  He also says we are constantly bombarded with negative images - antidrug, anti-bullying, anti-war, etc.  For Senge, these kinds of messages send a powerlessness image.  
I wonder if many of us function also from the negative?  I don't want to fail this class, I don't want people to hate me, I don't want to be poor - nagativity is a great motivator for many people.  More so, maybe, than having a positive goal as the motivating force?
You can read The Fifth Discipline online under google books.

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